Category: Mental Health; Tarot Tips | Reading Time: 5 Minutes
The grip you have on that relationship is so tight that your knuckles have turned a ghostly white.
Deep down, you know the situation is like a carton of milk that expired three weeks ago. You know it’s sour. You know it makes you sick every time you take a sip.
Yet, you keep putting it back in the fridge because the idea of an empty shelf feels more terrifying than the poison itself.
You are essentially performing CPR on a ghost. You are wasting your own oxygen to revive a situation that flatlined months ago.
That job is over. That friendship has run its course. No amount of wishing is going to bring the past back to life.
It is time to stop mourning the funeral and start looking at the sunrise.
Loss Aversion
Why do we cling to the sour milk? In psychology, this is called Loss Aversion.
Nobel Prize-winning psychologists Kahneman and Tversky discovered that the pain of losing something is psychologically twice as powerful as the pleasure of gaining something.
Your brain is wired to keep the “Known Misery” rather than risk the “Unknown Joy.” You aren’t broken; you are just fighting your own biology. You are valuing the dead leaves more than the coming spring.
The Death Card: The King vs. The Child
When the Death card appears, the color usually drains from the client’s face. But the Tarot is rarely literal. Death is the cosmic broom of the deck. Its job is to sweep away the dust bunnies so you can finally breathe.
Look at the people under the horse’s hooves. This is the secret of the card.
- The King: He is dressed in rich armor. He fights the change. He is dead on the ground.
- The Child: He is offering the knight a flower. He accepts the change. He is alive.
The lesson? Resistance creates the suffering. If you fight the ending (like the King), you get trampled. If you accept the cycle (like the Child), you survive.
You are currently trying to bribe the Knight to go away. But the Knight doesn’t take bribes. He only takes what is already dead.
The Science of “Goo” (Imaginal Cells)
To become who you are going to be, you have to allow the person you were to dissolve.
We love the metaphor of the butterfly, but we forget the horror of the process. A caterpillar does not just grow wings. It enters the chrysalis and completely digests itself.
It literally turns into a soup.
Biologists call the cells that survive this process Imaginal Cells. At first, the caterpillar’s immune system attacks these new cells as “enemies” because they are so different from the old self.
You are currently in the “Goo Phase.” You feel like you are falling apart because you are falling apart. Your old ego (immune system) is attacking your new growth because it feels foreign.
This is not a mistake. You cannot reassemble into a butterfly if you insist on remaining a worm.
Shedding for Survival
I remember how my cat (Titi, a Persian) handled his coat. Every year, he shed. He left clumps of white fur on my black shirts and floating in my morning coffee.
It was a messy, annoying process. But if he didn’t shed, he would overheat. He would be weighed down by dead matter that no longer serves him.
Nature does not do “endings.” It only knows cycles. Winter is not the murder of Summer; it is the necessary nap before Spring.
You are snapping because you refuse to let go. You are trying to keep the old skin on with emotional duct tape, and it’s making you exhausted.
Empty the Cup
You cannot fill a cup that is already full of swamp water. You have to pour it out.
The next chapter of your life cannot land if your arms are already full of the debris of the last one.
The funeral is over. It is time to walk away from the grave and see what the light looks like.
🔮 The Action Right Now
Shedding isn’t a failure; it’s an upgrade. Stop fighting the cycle.
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