Category: Relationships; Tarot Tips | Reading Time: 4 Minutes
You are sitting on your couch, wearing that oversized hoodie that still smells like last week’s laundry. You are staring at a text message that says something vague about “focusing on my career” or “needing space.”
You are holding a torch for someone who can barely hold a conversation.
And you are nodding. You are rationalizing. You are telling yourself, “They are perfect for me, they just have a lot on their plate right now. I’ll wait.”
Honey, pass me the spray bottle. I need to spritz you.
We need to have an uncomfortable conversation about the lie you are telling yourself to avoid the pain of moving on. You are convinced you have met your soulmate, and the only thing standing in your way is a cruel twist of the clock.
But from where I’m sitting (usually on top of the refrigerator, judging you), the truth is simpler. And much sharper.
Dating the Hologram (The Psychology of Idealization)
Humans have a bizarre habit of falling in love with potential instead of reality. Psychologists call this Idealization.
You aren’t dating the person standing in front of you. You are dating a Holographic Projection of who they could be in five years if they went to therapy, got a better job, and learned how to communicate without shutting down.
If that is a relationship, it only exists in a fantasy novel.
In the cat world, we don’t do this. If I walk up to a food bowl and it is empty, I don’t sit there thinking, “The bowl is perfect, it’s just going through a dry phase.”
I scream. I knock things off the counter. Or I’ll go find a bug to eat (that will make my human scream).
I deal with what is physically present in the room.
When you say “Right Person, Wrong Time,” what you are actually saying is: “I am refusing to accept that this person cannot meet my needs.”
The Wheel of Fortune Doesn’t Negotiate
In Tarot, The Wheel of Fortune is the card of timing, cycles, and destiny. It spins constantly.
It teaches us a brutal lesson: Timing is a compatibility trait.
Read your requirements list of good partners again.
You list things like “funny,” “smart,” and “tall” as requirements. Why isn’t “emotionally available right now” on that list?
- If you meet someone wonderful, but they are moving to Antarctica tomorrow? Wrong person.
- If you meet someone charming, but they are still obsessed with their ex? Wrong person.
The universe is not teasing you. The Wheel is simply showing you that the gears do not align.
Trying to force it is like trying to shove a cat into a carrier when we are in “liquid mode.” You will just get scratched, and nobody is going anywhere.
Don’t Park in the Tow-Away Zone
Imagine you found the perfect parking spot. It’s right in front of the store. Looks spacious. And you think it is the best spot in the city.
But there is a giant sign that says NO PARKING 7 AM – 7 PM.
Do you park there anyway and hope the sign changes its mind? Do you sit in your idling car for six hours waiting for the rules of the city to rewrite themselves?
No. You drive away. You find a spot where you actually fit.
When you wait for someone to “be ready,” you are parking your life in a Tow-Away Zone. You are putting your own happiness on pause for a movie that hasn’t even started filming yet.
That is disrespectful of your own time. You have nine lives, sure, but do you really want to spend three of them waiting for a text back?
The Truth About “Someday”
If they wanted to, they would. It is a cliché because it is true.
If a cat wants to be on your lap, there is no force on earth that can stop it. We will defy physics. We will squeeze under doors. And sometimes we endure loud noises.
If someone is letting “bad timing” keep them away from you, it’s because the pull isn’t strong enough to override the obstacle.
Accepting this hurts. It feels like a hairball stuck in your throat. But coughing it up is the only way to breathe again.
Stop waiting for the future to save you. The present moment is the only thing you can actually touch.
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