Category: Mental Health; Relationships | Reading Time: 4 Minutes
We believe you already know what is Twin Flame. But, right now we will talk about the Twin Flame trap.
The screen of your phone is the only light in the room, and it’s right above your face. You blocked the number at noon, convinced you were finally done. But by 4:15 PM, the curiosity turned into an itch you couldn’t help but scratch.
Now, it’s nearly midnight. Your eyes are swollen. You’re sitting on the floor, surrounded by three different tarot decks, shuffling for the fourth time today because you didn’t like the first three answers.
You pull the Three of Swords. You see the heart pierced by blades. But instead of accepting the heartbreak, you tell yourself it just means “growing pains.”
You pull the Eight of Swords, showing a woman bound and blindfolded. You convince yourself it’s a sign of your “divine patience.”
Eventually, you hit the Two of Cups. You practically scream at the wall. “See?!” You tell yourself this is the proof. You decide the agony is just part of the “Twin Flame journey,” and that the pain is a sacred test you have to pass.
Cut the music. Turn on the ugly overhead lights.
You aren’t in a divine test; you are in a trauma bond. And you are using the Tarot to help you stay there.
The Defense Attorney Syndrome
Reading tarot while your heart is breaking is like trying to drive through a monsoon without windshield wipers. You aren’t actually looking for the truth; you are hunting for a loophole.
This is what I call Defense Attorney Syndrome.
When you label someone a “Twin Flame,” you stop being a seeker. You become a lawyer for the defense. You ignore a mountain of evidence—the ghosting, the lying, the coldness—because you’ve found one tiny crumb of “destiny.”
You start to believe that The Lovers card is a binding legal contract that justifies your misery.
Here is the math (and Google won’t tell you this): If you shuffle a 78-card deck enough times, you will eventually see a “soulmate” card. That isn’t fate; that is a statistical certainty.
You are taking a screenshot of that one good card and using it as a shield to protect yourself from the reality of your own unhappiness.
The “Hiss” Rule (Bane’s Perspective)
Take a moment to consider my Senior Consultant, Bane (a 12-year-old cat with zero patience for nonsense).
If someone accidentally steps on his tail, he doesn’t pause to analyze the spiritual significance of the event. He doesn’t wonder if the pain is a “karmic purging.” He doesn’t wonder if he needs to raise his vibration to understand the foot that crushed him.
He hisses, and He might even provide a sharp reminder with his claws. Then, he leaves the room.
Bane understands a fundamental law of nature that the spiritual community has forgotten: Love is not supposed to be a source of constant injury.
If a house isn’t safe, a cat finds a different sunbeam. We don’t care about “past life contracts” if we are being treated poorly in the present one. If the environment is toxic, we walk out the door.
Why are you treating a person who hurts you better than you treat your own soul?
Dressing Up the Dumpster Fire
The “Twin Flame” narrative is dangerous because it gives you a spiritual vocabulary to justify emotional abuse.
- You see “The Runner and the Chaser.” I see a person who is avoiding accountability and a person who is refusing to let go.
- You call it “Mirroring the Shadow Self.” I see a partner who refuses to respect your basic needs.
- You call it a “Karmic Purge.” It looks a lot like a weekly shouting match that leaves you hollowed out.
Real Tarot is not an endurance test.
The cards are not there to tell you how much more pain you can take before you break. They are there to show you the exit.
If your relationship feels like you are holding your bare hand on a hot stove, the lesson is not “how to withstand the heat.” The lesson is to move your hand.
Changing the Question
The hard truth is that you don’t actually need a reading about him. You already know the answer. If you have to ask a deck of cards if a man respects you, he doesn’t. Respect is never invisible.
You need a reading about YOU.
You need to ask why you’ve come to believe that “love” and “suffering” are synonymous. You need to ask why you are fighting for a person who hasn’t even bothered to show up for the battle.
Put the phone in a different room. Wipe your face. Stop asking if he is coming back and start asking why you are still waiting at the gate.
🔮 The Action Right Now
You are not a martyr for “destiny.” You are a human being who deserves a love that feels like a warm lap, not a sharp claw.
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